My many roles
Monday, June 7, 2010
I have been a:
-customer server
-waitress
-flyer giver
-game stall tender
-relief "teacher"
haha cool eh? Always on the go doing things, I kind of has satisfaction completing tasks that are on my hands. But it is not very enjoyable when you need to complete task for others. A helping hand, some call it. Almost everyone needs a helping hand at some moments- totally understandable.
But once helping hand become free as and when taken for garanted labour, it become not very nice. Acknowledgement is imporatant to a certain extent. A simple thank you(sincerely) can make up the day of someone who is helping you.
I often reflect if i have taken anyone for garanted in my life because i really detest the feeling for being made used of. Guess i have been bottling up this feeling for quite long so nowadays i am more sensitive to it. Little things will trigger my anger and i kind of felt bad about it.
There are moments when i really want to have some time for myself, but seeing other very stress up, i felt kind of compelled to help up. I always give myself a mental note that my help may not be appreciated and i am not asking for acknowledgement. But i am really struggling in the sense that once help, you will always be the first one to be approached agin and again and again, till a point of taken garanted for. Once a new party comes to offer a hand, all appreciation and gratitude goes to the new hand but what happens to the old? Is it too much for me to even ask for some acknowledgement? Should i tell myself every single second that its ok if my help is being ignored? I am really not feeling ok after being ignored everytime. Hardwork in silence for too long is a morale killer.
For people who always ask others for help- make a point to thank the person, sincerely not just for formality sake. Here i will like to mention someone who i have a new respect for recently. Her name is yunzhen (: She is one who also always consider others first before her and i really respect and admire her for that. Its nt just when she feels like it, but everytime. A lesson which i am learning now cuz always putting others interest before mine is not easy at all.
So here i am, learning a lesson of boosting the morale of others as i have gone through the times of morale keep being stepped by others. Time to give some light to those who have been working in the dark for too long.
